A man and a woman who wish to wed are subject to cultural and legal obligations through the institution of marriage. This is because marriage is a custom. Similarly, the same union between a man and a woman is also bound by God. It is a covenant entered into by the spouses before God in the same way that it is a binding agreement between them. When considering the fact that the man and the woman have been permanently bound, it would be troublesome to find out later that the marriage entered into was wrong and/or you are married to the wrong person. What does the Bible say about wrong marriages?
Christians are forbidden to maintain relationships with non-believers because righteousness and evil cannot coexist, and neither can light, and darkness ever coexist (2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?). Hence, a person who believes in God is required to wed another believer and have the same devotion to God.
If a believer has engaged in a marriage with someone who does not share their faith, but the non-believing partner is still willing to cohabitate with the believer, then the believer should not divorce the non-believer. Because the non-believing partner has already been sanctified by the believing partner, this kind of marriage cannot be considered wrong (1 Corinthians 7:12-14). If, on the other hand, the non-believing spouse leaves the marital union, the believing spouse needs to leave it alone because, in such a scenario, they are no longer bound by the marriage.
The Bible should be our primary resource when it comes to mediating conflicts that may arise in a married couple’s relationship. The Lord has a plan and a tremendous purpose for everything that happens. We may judge it to be wrong based on how it appears to us as humans, but it’s also possible that God won’t share our perspective. He will cause everything to come together for the good of those who love the Lord, according to His plan for each of us (Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.).
Even in situations in which spouses hold contradictory viewpoints and may believe that their marriage is a mistake, we must trust that God will rectify the wrong and/or transform the wrong into the right person. Wives ought to be submissive to their husbands so that even if they do not believe in God, they may be persuaded to change their minds not by the words of their wives but by how they conduct themselves, demonstrating holiness and reverence (1Peter 3:1-2).
What does the Bible say about toxic marriages?
We can’t ignore the fact that an argument can and will emerge when two people are in a committed relationship. It could be about something petty, or it could originate from something deeply rooted in our emotions. Either way, it could be a source of discomfort. Even while it is impossible to completely avoid conflict, we must make every effort to do so, especially within the context of marriage, lest it becomes destructive. Constant hostility between spouses has the potential to poison the relationship. Considering that this is not a healthy situation for marriage, how should we manage these kinds of situations? What does the Bible have to say about toxic relationships within marriage?
Spouses love the Word; each should be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath (James 1:19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:). Wives should submit to their husbands so that their wives’ actions can win their husbands. Husbands should be patient with their spouses so that their prayers are not impeded (1 Peter 3:1,7).
No matter what situations we are in – including the ties we have with our spouses, close friends, and family – we are constantly reminded that we are required to be fully humble, gentle, and patient with one another. It is necessary for us to cherish one another in love (Ephesians 4:2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;). Even if there are difficulties in the marriage, we must look past them, be understanding, and work on deepening our love for one another. To become mature members of the body of Christ, we must not only tell the truth but also do so in love (Ephesians 4:15 But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:).
Both of us must show consideration and respect to the other partner. Bitterness, hatred, violence, brawling, and slander, together with all other forms of malice, should be eradicated from our household (Ephesians 4:31). All of these toxic feelings would only serve to make the marriage more unpleasant. Because of the potential damage that it will cause to our beautiful bond, we must abstain from engaging in activities of this nature. Rather, we should strive to be compassionate and kind. We ought to have no trouble forgiving one another since, after all, love forgets what’s been done wrong.
It is not proper for a man and a woman to enter into a marriage relationship to pursue their own individual happiness. It is essential that this kind of marriage should bring praise and honor to God (Ephesians 5:32). It is then entered into with the consideration that, by doing so, the Lord is glorified. To be able to persevere through the never-ending struggles of married life, we need to draw strength from God. Let us approach the throne of God’s grace with boldness so that by doing so, we may get compassion and find the grace that we need to help us through the challenges that we are experiencing (Hebrews 4:16).
We require the same level of compassion that the Lord has for His people, especially in the context of marriage. These are trying times that we currently live in. Christians are up against many challenges and constantly battling the temptations that our enemies pose. In spite of this, we do not give up hope in Christ because He keeps every one of the promises that He has made. It is essential that the institution of marriage be grounded in the will of the Lord because we cannot enter into it and then determine that it is not right for us at a later time. It is right and proper for married couples to have compassion for their partners and readily forgive offenses, just as the Lord has forgiven them for their transgressions (Ephesians 4:32).